Sunday, October 27, 2013

The defining decade is not only in your 20's, but also in your 60's

Meg Jay, the author of the book, "The Defining Decade" discusses how the 20's are the defining decade for the rest of your life. But what I found, is her recommendations about the 20's are the same things you need to do when you are in your 60's.  Watch, and see what I mean:



Here is a recap of her suggestions for the 20-year-old:
  1. Consciously choose who and what you want rather than kill time. Invest in who you want to be next. Explore, rather than procrastinate.
  2. Don't just huddle together with like-minded people. New things come from what are called weak ties; friends of friends of friends. Reach out to your neighbor's boss to get that un-posted job because this is how information spreads.
  3. Create your family. Make conscious choices. Don't just take the last chair standing.
And this is what often happens when your in your 60's:
  1. You are waiting to retire. You hang on to the job you have and count the months until you can leave. You endure. You coast. You settle.
  2. You hang out with people who think, act, and believe the same things you do. 
  3. Your children are busy with their own lives and so you have little interaction with them, or wait until you are invited to be part of their life. 
So, if you are in your 60's, this next decade will defined how you live out the rest of your life. This is what you should do if you want the rest of your life to be meaningful:
  1. Invest and explore in who and what you want to be next. Don't just coast; invest.
  2. Reach out and connect with people who have different beliefs. Expand your world. This process will help open new awareness and possibilities. Expand who and what you are. It will also help your brain develop new neuropathways. 
  3. Create your family. Invest and focus on creating new family togetherness opportunities. Make things happen. Visit. Plan. Create togetherness.
What I found is that Meg Jay's talk is insightful not only a 20-year-old, but also for the 60-year-old.