Brené Brown studies human connection and asks the question about what keeps us from feeling connected? People who are connected have these qualities:
- the courage to be imperfect
- the compassion to be kind to themselves first and then to others
- a connection that is authentic and they are willing to let go of who they should be and be true to themselves.
- they are vulnerable
Brené goes on to say that it is vulnerability which is the birthplace of joy, creativity, of belonging, and love. We can't pick and choose which areas of life we are going to be vulnerable. If we numb vulnerability, we end up also numbing joy, gratitude, happiness.
She encourages us all, including businesses, religions, government, to stop pretending that there is no affect on what they do on other people. It affects all of us.
She also suggest to practice gratitude and joy and believe that you areenough. When this happens we are kinder to others as well as to ourselves.
Here is her TED talk about vulnerability. It is a poignant, funny talk, where she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. If you are a researcher, data analyst, or were taught "if you can't measure it, it doesn't exist," you will get a kick out her talk.